Was home super early today! It’s nice to be attending courses once in a while.
Somehow, I enjoyed today’s course topics. Even though I felt like I was a ‘tourist’ there, it somehow felt enriching. The first one was so-so, but this one was better. Maybe I prefered to listen to stories more than activities.
I had Ben Oon and Patrick attending the course together too. Talked crap here and there. It was good. Patrick’s M1 now. And news is that someone has jumped from M2 to M3. And someone has jumped from M2 to M3 to M4 within 2 years.
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One of the topics today was about communication and interpretation. Different people decipher a particular message differently. In order to get a message across, the way you intended it to be, you have to have feedback.
Feedback, can be of the 5 senses. Hear, touch, smell, sight, taste. A person can say yes, but his or her body language can mean otherwise. A person can say that a food is nice, but his or her tone can mean otherwise.
And, I think, while trying to talk to people, and people don’t respond, it’s a form of negative feedback. You can try to understand why there is no response through various means, but what if the other party is simply not interested to let you understand more? Do you just forget about the person, and let him or her rot away from your life?
It just feels wrong sometimes. Why am I giving my 100% trying to communicate, and the other side is simply putting in 0%? Is it fair? Maybe, the other side is just practicing filtering. Selective filtering. ‘Delete’, in this case. Or maybe the other side just hates me for reasons unknown to me. Or maybe the other side is just scared of me due to unknown wrongdoings. Or maybe the other side is just being anti-social.
‘Delete’, ‘Distort’, ‘Generalise’.
Yes, when things happen too frequently, I will tend to generalise things. Non-response will mean anti-Lk. You cannot blame me for that. I am not G.O.D.
No, really, we cannot actually understand each other. Everyone is different. It’s true. Every individual thinks differently. We cannot use our own beliefs, and try to impose on others. Like food, for example. It’s not that you like a particular food, and others have to follow suit. It’s not that you love ice cream, everyone else does, too.
Of course, there is an option called ‘change’, which is also a form of ‘compromise’ or ‘giving in’, but that’s another story for another time.
And the trainer said a point that I think is so true: “if you want to give instructions, make sure you know first”. Yeah, I don’t feel that giving instructions to people, when you yourself have not done something before, is good. It’s like a non-programmer, telling a programmer the reason why his or her program executes and crashes. How credible are you?
And there’s this small talk about people acting as if they know, when actually, they don’t know. Typical examples happen at work sometimes. You know, “act smart” people.
And saying this, I can’t help but to say that, there are ‘act hardworking’ people too. People that turns into superman when certain people are around.
Topics for another time.
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Oh yeah, did I mention about watching SATC during the weekend? Interesting wor… LOL… Looks like I can enjoy such movies. Duhz. I am really turning into girl mentality… badddd… LOL.
Ok, back to 宫心计 episode 22.