{"id":4835,"date":"2007-10-08T10:04:48","date_gmt":"2007-10-08T02:04:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/belief.hazelcafe.com\/?1489"},"modified":"2007-10-08T10:04:48","modified_gmt":"2007-10-08T02:04:48","slug":"hr2002-reflection-paper","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/belief.hazelcafe.com\/?p=4835","title":{"rendered":"HR2002 Reflection Paper"},"content":{"rendered":"
Ermm…. I don't know what I am writing for HR here.. but here's the full text. wahahaa!!!<\/div>\n
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Self-concept is an important theory that will bridge people together. I have learnt that the self is a complicated process of gaining self awareness, which is achieved through interactions with others. Self-concept is a person’s perception of himself or herself. Positive self-concept is the preferred choice, as positive characteristics, such as being optimistic and easy-going, are able to improve interpersonal relationships. <\/div>\n
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During my secondary school days, I was forced to become a peer leader for new students. At that time, my self-esteem was quite low (perhaps due to being overweight), and I was pessimistic. In the end, I did not really interact well with the new students, let alone building a good relationship with them. Overall, I did not manage to enjoy the experience, which made me dread the weekly meetings. This became a vicious cycle of negative self-concept. Therefore, I think, in order to really enjoy carrying out a particular activity, positive self-concept is very important.<\/div>\n
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I believe that the self is always changing. I was brought up by my parents with a few beliefs. I was more of a conservative person, most probably through role-taking, as suggested by G.H. Mead, and probably because I am the only child. As I grew older, these beliefs were evolved, adding and strengthening some principles and abandoning others. I became more open to others due to the various interactions with my surroundings, such as school, teachers, and friends. Therefore, I believe that, how we change over time affects our overall behavior, which in turn affects our interpersonal relationships. <\/div>\n
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In school, friends are like my mirrors. From interaction with them, I am able to establish a self-concept. Usually, as Goffman’s concept of self presentation suggests, I present selected information about myself to others – the public self. As trust builds up, self-disclosure becomes easier, and the hidden self and blind self can have the possibility of becoming public. The higher the amount of trust, the more a person will be willing to disclose.<\/div>\n
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Trust is the willingness to undertake some form of risk in believing that a particular party will carry out a task that he or she has agreed to work on. However, usually, when the trust has been betrayed once, it will be difficult to build it up all over again. This can be seen clearly in the tutorial exercise on horse racing, whereby no one really trusts a group that has already broken the trust earlier. <\/div>\n
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We tend to change our behaviors while undertaking different roles. We change our behaviors according to what we think are appropriate for a particular role. This is important as conflicts can be avoided where unnecessary. However, when a conflict arises, our first reaction will often be anger, and we will tend to put the blame on anything else except ourselves. This can be seen as a form of self-defense.<\/div>\n
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Also, when we are forced to believe in something, we tend to find reasons to support them, regardless of the appropriateness of the beliefs. This is seen in the tutorial exercise about the girl and the sailor, where different groups are pre-assigned to support a particular character in the case study. Therefore, we have to be as objective as possible by considering all possibilities when making such decisions.<\/div>\n
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In real life, being assertive (saying out how I think and feel in a respectful manner) requires much practice. I myself tend to be more of a person that gives passive responses. I remembered during my vacation internship at I2<\/sup>R, when my supervisor complimented me on a job well done, but what I did was to smile back. <\/div>\n
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When something negative has been said (usually when the other party is very blunt at saying things), my response will tend to be aggressive as I engage in self-defense mode. Therefore, I think that, being able to put negative remarks across in a less offensive manner is very important too. Also, during my GEK1006 tutorial class, we realized through a hands-on exercise that the usage of ‘maybe’ in our thoughts can be used to bring down the aggressiveness.<\/div>\n
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In conclusion, by understanding and accepting that each and every one of us is unique in one way or another, we are able to enhance our interpersonal relationships, improve our behaviors, and boost our performances. However, it is not always easy to do things the desired way. Therefore, experience in human relations is important.<\/p>\n
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I think I must have forgotten how to write essays… Wahhaa… zzz lor..<\/div>\n
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