{"id":4792,"date":"2007-08-18T21:38:00","date_gmt":"2007-08-18T13:38:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/belief.hazelcafe.com\/?1446"},"modified":"2007-08-18T21:38:00","modified_gmt":"2007-08-18T13:38:00","slug":"to-understand-others-first-understand-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/belief.hazelcafe.com\/?p=4792","title":{"rendered":"To Understand Others, First Understand Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Today&#039;s topic. To understand others, you have to first understand yourself. <\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, I think, I do not understand myself too much. It takes me quite a while to even think of a simple word to describe myself. It&#039;s not a simple task. Even though such things always happen, I don&#039;t seem to be able to use the same word everytime. It&#039;s not a simple task for me.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, I don&#039;t know myself. Some of my friends think they know who\/what am I, but what do they know? Most of them only know the most basic level: Quiet and cold when unknown, friendly when known. Some more observant ones will manage to read (and read correctly) in between, and discover more.<\/p>\n<p>But that should apply to everybody, doesn&#039;t it? And very observant people are rather rare.<\/p>\n<p>I agree that I do not disclose much about myself. Not that I do not like to talk about it, but I see no need to do so. Not many people want to know anyway. It&#039;s the same for happenings. Be it past, present, future, I don&#039;t really talk about it.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe, I have another bigger problem: the lack of a strong ability to express myself sufficiently. Maybe I don&#039;t think that&#039;s required, that&#039;s why it&#039;s bad, or vice versa &#8211; it&#039;s bad, that&#039;s why I cannot.<\/p>\n<p>Oh well.<\/p>\n<p>So what do I understand about myself? Don&#039;t know&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Since I don&#039;t really understand myself, how am I going to understand others?<\/p>\n<p>&quot;You don&#039;t understand&#8230;&quot;<\/p>\n<p>Yes, that sentence will often come back to haunt me.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>One problem that I don&#039;t really like to touch on is BGR. I have no authority over this topic. Often, people will not like to talk about their own BGR, especially one that&#039;s gone bad somehow.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;No point talking about it&#8230;&quot;<\/p>\n<p>&quot;It&#039;s complicated&#8230;&quot;<\/p>\n<p>&quot;Sianz&#8230;&quot;<\/p>\n<p>&quot;It&#039;s nothing&#8230;&quot;<\/p>\n<p>Some of the typical replies.<\/p>\n<p>Since people don&#039;t want to talk about it, fine, I shall not ask. Even if I ask, I can give no good advice. Because, I have not been really caught in one.<\/p>\n<p>Experience is virtually ZERO. Nothing to be proud of in this case. Therefore, when people start discussing about BGR, I will be listening. I have nothing to say. Nothing to contribute. Nothing to share.<\/p>\n<p>And where unnecessary, I will not dig into other people&#039;s affairs. I still hold on to my own belief: whatever I need to know, will be known, sooner or later. The more I try to find out, the less I get in returns.<\/p>\n<p>And ofcourse, whatever will happen, will.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>Went back for quite a not-too-useful FYP briefing session. It&#039;s more like a ECE get-together, since everyone&#039;s back.<\/p>\n<p>Went to Munchie Monkey with wm, ed, joan, law, grace, xinli. Makan and talk talk session! Not that I have much to say anyway. Went there to listen to latest gossips and SEP happenings. Not that I have much to contribute also. <\/p>\n<p>But then, it&#039;s a good gathering. I just felt sianz sometimes. One thing I like though: the drizzle.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today&#039;s topic. To understand others, you have to first understand yourself. 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